Getting Along With Your Partner During Quarantine

Are you quarantining with anyone?

I'm quarantining with my husband and 4 cats. I have never spent this much time with my husband and cats before. Its mainly because we both don't work from home. Before the pandemic, we would see each other at night for dinner till we leave for work in the morning. Then the safer at home order was issued. Both of our workplaces told us to work from home. We spent all day, every day together and for the most part, it's been great. I really wouldn't mind if we both continued to work from home together once things somewhat normalize. It hasn't been perfect, but I've learned to adapt to our new normal.

If you are quarantining with your partner in love at home, I have some tips for you. I am no expert, so if there are any issues you may have with your partner, I recommend talking to a therapist.

1. Listen. This period of time has been a new situation for all of us. Every person has a different way of reacting to what's going on. If your partner is going through anything because of the pandemic, listen and acknowledge them. Really listen to what they are saying. Look them in the eyes. Let them feel heard.

2. Schedule quality time every week. I know it may seem a lot since you might be with your partner all day, but actual quality time when you are "all there". It's easy to get lost on our phones, social media, and the news right now. Take a break from all that sometimes and just be present with your partner.

3. Schedule some time away from your partner. Every healthy relationship schedules time together as well as time away from each other. This could be the time you work on your own projects. It could be reading a good book, taking an online course, gardening, exercising, doing your favorite hobby, or chatting/hanging out with your friends.

4. Be considerate. Clean up after yourself. Help out with cleaning or cooking.

5. Don't assume. Try not to guess what your partner is feeling or thinking. It's better just to ask. Communication is key.

6. Take the 5 Love Languages Quiz. Find out what love language your partner communicates the best with and try to show him/her that language.

7. Show appreciation. If your partner does something for you or the both of you, say thank you no matter how small it is. It feels good to be acknowledged.

8. Think of something nice to do every day. This could be anything. For example, making coffee, cooking their favorite meal, taking out the trash if they do it all the time, or plan a date night.

Let me know if I missed anything. I'm always willing to improve and learn :)

Take care,

Robin